Reach for the stars. What would be your message in a bottle?

There are so many things I would like to tell Monster, even though I am not sure if my advice is right, so I recorded a living will video, with a high level message about 'achievement'.

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Achievement is subjective and it is different for everyone. I do not think it can be measured as it is personal. What I have achieved in my life so far, many would not want to do, where others have done so and more. I think everyone can agree on this.

I am happy with everything I have achieved so far, because I have surpassed all of the expectations I have set myself. It is a great feeling, and it is a feeling that no one can take from me.

I have reached for the stars on many occasions, sometimes I have grabbed them, sometimes I have failed miserably, but I tried, and I learned from it all.

So, my message, not only to Monster but to anyone, is to reach for the stars. Go out there and achieve. It may take you minutes, or decades but go out there and do it for you. The only barriers you have are the ones you put in your way. People will be jealous, they will criticise and we are in such a judgemental world at present, but if you achieve something you are happy with, then they cannot do anything. It's yours, you earnt it and they cannot take it away.

Many of my achievements have been through taking part in projects, completing courses (long ago, I set myself a target to complete one course per year). I have written several books, all fictional which have puzzled family members, some think that science-fiction is for the young. I wear Star Trek t-shirts, I incorporate Trekkie slogans and metaphors in my work and personal life, to me science-fiction is fun and it is the future – how can it be unrealistic when we send rockets into space.

At the same time, I love learning about our world. There is a dark blue world underneath us, that still has more to be explored, but at the same time I hope mankind leave it alone. We do enough damage.

The imagination is limitless, and I love exploring the different avenues it can take me down.

So if people are holding you back, let them, if they have time to talk about you in a non-positive manner then you have either offended them or intimidated them. If it is the latter then carry on with life, find people who support you, be all you can be. No one can really argue with that deep down.

There will always be obstacles such as family and work, these are inevitable, like taxes, just plan accordingly, you will be able to achieve, there is no time limit on achievement, only what you set yourself.

Furthermore, if your goal is making you unhappy, perhaps it has an unrealistic timeframe or it is just not for you. You do not have to see something through. If you have tried something, and it is not making you happy, then do not feel like you have to continue with it. There are plenty more fish in the sea.

Achievement, reaching for the stars without setting yourself chores. There is no age limit, time limit or physical barriers. Be all you can be, for you and no one else.

Mega Blok castles in the sky

Given my last post, I thought a visual representation of the work which has been carried out on our house, would be helpful. I fully endorse data privacy (notice I did not mention GDPR...oops, I did), so in the interests of not displaying anything about my humble, and rebuilt abode, here is a model I created earlier.

This is what our house was like before the work was carried out:

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This is what our house looks like now:

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For those who do not know, our house has undergone emergency renovation work over the last two months. Considering the upheaval, we have been told that we have dealt with it very well. The work consisted of taking up all of the flooring on the lower level of the house, rebuilding the support walls and creating foundations, and then adding several tonnes of cement for extra stability. We had to move ourselves (and the small human), into temporary accommodation for 5 weeks at very short notice. This meant an increase in train fares for me to get to work, extra mileage for Jack and taking our annual leave with the childminder, as well as taking annual leave from work to try and keep costs down.

Keeping in mind that the insurance company were not obliged to pay out, we are now in the process of finding out if we can carry out a negligence claim for all of the work that was required. I stress that the work was required, it was not optional. It was either carry out extensive work, or watch our floors fall in.

We have only owned the property for 3 years, and given the stature of work, we cannot help but think that someone would have noticed there was a problem with the support and foundations of the property during the purchase.

Overall it has meant that work as in careers, has been placed on hold, we have had to take unplanned annual leave and personal days, live with family members, spend several weeks apart from each other as there was no room for all of us in one location. We have also had to cancel plans such as anniversary, and scrape together for birthdays, because of course that happened at the same time everything else was going on, and while I have tried to keep a positive attitude and remember that at least we have a roof (or several roofs) over our heads, and we were not apart from each other that long, it has been incredibly difficult. Though I now have had a taster of single parent life and have made the executive decision that if Jack and I ever broke up, Monster would need to be older.

Also I am not convinced by Jack’s taste in decorating music. How did it take me nearly 10 years to find this out.

Watch this space, I am sure there will be further developments on this, even if they are minor.

What to do when your house needs an overhaul. Emergency building work edition

Reducing down a very long story, in March 2015 we had the interior wall taken down, which separated the dining room and the kitchen to turn it into a kitchen/dinner. Bearing in mind that the dining room could hold the contents of our previous property, the room looked ideal as a combined unit.

In March 2016, one year later, the new kitchen was installed, as up until that point we had been dealing with next to no appliances and a cooker that I think was older than me. With minimal appliances it meant less weight on the floor (this is key later on).

All seemed well until six months ago, when we noticed a bounce in the floor, and the floor had dropped, which continued to get worse. We called another builder who did an analysis and found that the RSJ which was supposed to be fitted where the wall in 2015 was taken down, had mysteriously disappeared. Or more to the point, it had never been installed in the first place, but paid for. Of course.

Then, the builder pulled up the floor and found that all of the support walls under the property were shaking and could literally be moved with hands. There was the reason for the bounce, and there was also one big ticking time bomb that could go off at any moment, pulling down the floor, and anything or anyone standing there, not to mention the potential impact on the house joined to ours.

As the days went on more bad news came. It was confirmed by two builders and a structural engineer that all of the support walls under the house had to be replaced, and the foundations didn't look good either. We also discovered that significant work had taken place on the property fifteen years before and in 1982. The council only had record of the underpinning work in 1982, but this was never mentioned to us when we purchased the house by the surveyor, or the conveyancing solicitors.

Most at this point would be asking about buildings insurance. Well yes of course there was building insurance in place, but they were not prepared to pay out, this was classed as a maintenance issue, and if anyone checks their building insurance, unless you have asked for a specific addendum to be put in place, and unless the work is subsidence, heave or landslip you will not be covered for support wall foundation work. It is incredibly unfortunate, but this is general wear and tear, in other words we are paying for previous owners' lack of upkeep.

So, how was this not discovered during the purchase of the property, considering how substantial the work was?

This is a good question. The argument for accountability is also a tricky one, there could potentially be two claims for professional negligence but at the same time, to find that out it would also be costly and we were already spending enough on the remedial work as it was, but it is something we are definitely instructing a solicitor to look into. I also feel I will be brushing up on my professional negligence law in the near future.

The steelwork to the exterior of the property was sound, and while the first interior wall that was taken down did not necessarily need an RSJ, we came to find, it did put pressure on its neighbouring interior wall. To cut the costs, we opted to remove said interior wall which separated the kitchen/diner and the living room. On the upside, the open plan look really works with the living room and kitchen/dinner, but it was still work we were never intending to do while we owned the property.

Before the work could be carried out, we needed to move out, it was the most efficient way for the builders to take down the interior wall, and build new walls under the length of the whole house. We were given 12-18 hours' notice, as the work was that urgent, and with a toddler, the whole situation was not going to be hassle-free. But, we are proactive people, we get things done quickly, and when you have a floor that could fall in beneath you at any moment, there was no other choice.

So, we moved in with Jack's mother for two weeks (as that was the estimated timeframe), but then the bad weather hit and commuting from West Sussex to London became very costly, so I and the small human moved in with my mother for another two and a half weeks.

We moved back into our house after five weeks of disruption, but the work was noticeable, not only because of the wall coming down, but you could feel how secure the floor was.

While we suffered an unexpected bill of nearly £20,000, out of our own pockets, on a property we have owned for just 3 years and thought the big jobs were done, we still stand to make a substantial profit on the house, which is slightly comforting. Now it is open-plan, it may even increase in value, who knows.

In situations like this you reflect on things. For us, we realised how lucky we are to financially be in the position to sort this work out quickly, we could have had no option but to leave it and face the inevitable, or we would have a crippling loan that we would be stuck under for many years. We also learnt who our friends are and who buries their heads in the sand.

Hopefully there is some useful information above, and it is good to learn from others experiences.

So that is the main reason for longer than usual radio silence, and even though it looks like I haven't got up too much, I have actually been quite productive, which is a miracle considering. The new blog is up and running, the SwimFor site has been migrated to a new portal, Lotus Magma, well has not really moved, but things are in motion, and No Food Limits is moving along nicely. In addition, there will be a new book out soon called Death Comes from Above, you can view the details and pre-order that from here.