There are so many things I would like to tell Monster, even though I am not sure if my advice is right, so I recorded a living will video, with a high level message about 'achievement'.
Achievement is subjective and it is different for everyone. I do not think it can be measured as it is personal. What I have achieved in my life so far, many would not want to do, where others have done so and more. I think everyone can agree on this.
I am happy with everything I have achieved so far, because I have surpassed all of the expectations I have set myself. It is a great feeling, and it is a feeling that no one can take from me.
I have reached for the stars on many occasions, sometimes I have grabbed them, sometimes I have failed miserably, but I tried, and I learned from it all.
So, my message, not only to Monster but to anyone, is to reach for the stars. Go out there and achieve. It may take you minutes, or decades but go out there and do it for you. The only barriers you have are the ones you put in your way. People will be jealous, they will criticise and we are in such a judgemental world at present, but if you achieve something you are happy with, then they cannot do anything. It's yours, you earnt it and they cannot take it away.
Many of my achievements have been through taking part in projects, completing courses (long ago, I set myself a target to complete one course per year). I have written several books, all fictional which have puzzled family members, some think that science-fiction is for the young. I wear Star Trek t-shirts, I incorporate Trekkie slogans and metaphors in my work and personal life, to me science-fiction is fun and it is the future – how can it be unrealistic when we send rockets into space.
At the same time, I love learning about our world. There is a dark blue world underneath us, that still has more to be explored, but at the same time I hope mankind leave it alone. We do enough damage.
The imagination is limitless, and I love exploring the different avenues it can take me down.
So if people are holding you back, let them, if they have time to talk about you in a non-positive manner then you have either offended them or intimidated them. If it is the latter then carry on with life, find people who support you, be all you can be. No one can really argue with that deep down.
There will always be obstacles such as family and work, these are inevitable, like taxes, just plan accordingly, you will be able to achieve, there is no time limit on achievement, only what you set yourself.
Furthermore, if your goal is making you unhappy, perhaps it has an unrealistic timeframe or it is just not for you. You do not have to see something through. If you have tried something, and it is not making you happy, then do not feel like you have to continue with it. There are plenty more fish in the sea.
Achievement, reaching for the stars without setting yourself chores. There is no age limit, time limit or physical barriers. Be all you can be, for you and no one else.